Divorce and other legal matters can be isolating. During this time, it is essential to be with others. Therefore, it’s vital to have reasonable expectations of yourself and others. Use these five tips to help you establish criteria for yourself and meaningful relationships.
- Tip 1 – Understand that social relationships will change. It’s sometimes hard to accept that dear friends feel uncomfortable around you. But remember, change is difficult for everyone. Try not to take this personally. Their reaction is about their discomforts and projections, not yours.
- Tip 2 – Cultivate relationships with those who champion you getting out of bed, trying something new, and managing your emotions. This person can be a best friend, your mom, dad, or a coach.
- Tip 3 – Two is better. Rely on two friends. These friends will be there to help with kids; or to help when you lose your keys and those moments when you can’t remember how to fix the toilet, you call a plumber.
- Tip 4 – Allow yourself to feel your feelings about social encounters. Know that it’s okay to sit out a night when the situation doesn’t feel right to you. Good friends are understanding. Remember to be respectful of hosts; they want to include you and ensure you are okay.
- Tip 5 – Be with people who embrace hope for your future. These are friends who understand that you deserve the best and that the days ahead will get better.