The Top Five Ways that Parents Can be Considerate and Child-Focused in Parenting Plans
Part One: Parents support their child’s relationship with the other parent by:
- helping the child have regular contact with the other parent when they are not together,
- such as by phone calls, video calls, texts, e-mail, cards, and letters.
- speaking positively about the other parent.
- responding positively when the child talks about the child’s time with the other parent.
- helping the child feel good about their time with the other parent.
- showing each other respect when attending the child’s activities at the same time.
- supporting contact with grandparents, stepparents, and other extended family members so
- the child doesn’t lose these relationships.
- being flexible with parenting time so the child can take part in the other parent’s special
- family celebrations and events.
- allowing the child to display pictures of the other parent and other family members
- respecting differences in parenting styles and practices.
- ensuring both parents have the opportunity to provide care that supports the child’s
Part Two: Parents support consistency in their Child’s life by:
following the parenting time schedule.
explaining the parenting time schedule to the child in age-appropriate words.
creating a parenting time schedule that supports the amount of sleep the child needs at each age.
following similar times for bedtime and naptime in each home.
sharing information about the child, such as illness, medication, behavior, and discipline.
Part Three: Parents support their child’s activities and friendships by:
keeping each other informed about the child’s friends, activities, and events.
allowing the child to attend their activities and events.
attending the child’s activities and events when appropriate.
arranging or providing transportation for the child.
making sure the child has what they need to participate, such as athletic equipment or musical instruments.
Part Four: Parents communicate positively with each other by:
agreeing on and using workable methods of respectful communication with the other parent.
letting the other parent know about the child’s activities and appointments as soon as possible.
giving as much advance notice as possible to the other parent about special occasions or requested changes to the schedule.
providing the other parent with travel plans and how the child and the parent can be reached.
Part Five: Parents support conflict-free parenting time transitions by:
treating the other parent respectfully.
encouraging and helping the child transition to the care of the other parent.
being on time and informing the other parent if there are unavoidable delays
having the child ready to go on time with the other parent.
letting the child carry “important” items with them between the parents’ homes, such as clothes, toys, stuffed animals, and security blankets.
informing the other parent if another person will be taking the parent’s place for the transition.
being aware of the impact of having other people involved in the transition.