DOMESTIC ABUSE, Violence, & Narcissism

What is domestic abuse?

How does domestic abuse affect divorce, custody, and support cases?

It is important for people to know what domestic abuse is and how it can affect them in family law matters. We want to make sure that any indications of domestic abuse are identified prior to addressing the matters of divorcecustody, parenting timechild supportmaintenance, or other family law issues.

First of all, if you are in immediate danger, call 911. If, as you read this page, you realize that you are scared of any of the following acts occurring, call 911.

The following acts are defined by the Minnesota Domestic Abuse Act as domestic abuse:

  • infliction of physical harm, bodily injury, or assault;

  • infliction of fear of imminent physical harm;

  • terroristic threats;

  • acts of criminal sexual conduct;

  • interference with an emergency call or 911 call.

How am I supposed to amicably resolve my divorce if my husband is a narcissist?

In order for the abuse to be considered domestic abuse, it must be one of these acts committed by a family or household member against another family or household member. The definition of afamily or household member is one of the following:

  • spouse or former spouse;

  • persons involved in a significant romantic or sexual relationship;

  • parents and children;

  • persons related by blood;

  • persons living together or who have lived together in the past;

  • persons who have or had a child in common (born or in utero), regardless of whether they were living together or ever married.

The key questions we use in screening domestic abuse in any family law matter are:

  • Has your spouse/partner ever done anything that hurt you or threatened you or made you afraid?

  • Has your spouse/partner ever done anything that hurt, threatened, or scared the children?

  • Has your spouse/partner ever hurt or threatened to hurt your pets?

  • Is there anything that goes on at home that makes you feel afraid?

  • Has your intimate partner ever taken the children without permission or threatened to never let them see you again?

When any of these questions are answered with a “yes,” Atticus Family Law wants to help make sure our clients and their children are safe, that they have a safe place to stay, and they have the other appropriate resources.  Regardless of when this information is shared with us, we are concerned for our client’s safety and want to help. 

The legal measures we can employ when there has been domestic abuse include:

  • Seeking an Order For Protection that legally protects the client from the abuser;

  • Keeping private the home and workplace of domestic abuse victims so that they are not revealed in court papers and in court hearings;

  • Creating a safe legal process where the victim can comfortably give their input to the court, to custody evaluators, and to other professionals without putting themselves at risk;

  • Avoiding circumstances where victims feel pressured to mediate family law issues face-to-face with the other party;

  • Advising clients of the particular parts of our custody and parenting time laws that protect victimized parents and children from abusive parents;

  • Representing these parents in their divorce, custody, parenting time, child support, and other family law proceedings.

If you want to talk to Atticus Family Law regarding your immediate legal protection, your legal rights and issues related to concerns for domestic abuse, please call us at (651) 430-9700. Please know that from the first time you contact our office, our discussions are private and will not be shared without your permission.

Otherwise, note that the following resources are available:

  • Contact Tubman Family Crisis & Support Services (domestic violence resources and safety planning) at (612) 825-0000.

  • For shelter in the state of Minnesota and 24-hour crisis assistance, call Day One® Minnesota Domestic Violence Crisis Line 1-866-223-1111

  • Contact DAP's First Call desk at 612-874-7063 to register for therapy classes.

  • Victims of domestic or sexual violence in St. Croix County can contact Turningpoint at 800-345-5104.

  • For additional assistance in the State of Wisconsin, follow this link to find help in your county: or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233).

  • The Empowering Internet Safety Guide for Women