The Top Five Ways Children May Be Harmed by Un-focused Parenting
Part One: Parents do not support their child’s relationship with the other parent by:
making the child feel as if the child must choose between them or “take sides.”
failing to show respect for the other parent.
questioning the child about the other parent’s activities or relationships.
making negative remarks about the other parent or the other parent’s family, or allowing others to do so, when the child can hear them.
allowing the child to decide whether to go with the other parent for the scheduled parenting time.
discussing what led to the parents’ separation with the child or with others when the child can over-hear.
inappropriately using or requesting supervised parenting time.
failing to allow an infant or a child of any age to develop a relationship with the other parent.
inappropriately preventing or restricting the child’s contact with the other parent.
posting inappropriate photos, videos, and comments about the other parent or the other parent’s family on social media.
sharing information or documents with the child about the parents’ legal, financial, or other disagreements, including child support or what is going on in court.
Part Two: Parents do not support consistency in their child’s life by:
dropping in and out of the child’s life.
failing to show up on time or at all for scheduled parenting time.
failing to follow through on agreements about changes to the parenting time schedule. o failing to follow through on other commitments or agreements regarding the child.
interfering with parenting time because child support has not been paid.
Part Three: Parents do not communicate positively with each other by:
using their child as a messenger, spy, or mediator.
using disrespectful language.
asking the child to keep secrets from the other parent.
failing to communicate with the other parent in a timely way.
Part Four: Parents do not support conflict-free transitions for their child at the parenting time exchanges by:
engaging in arguments.
showing a hostile attitude.
making negative remarks or gestures to the other parent.
engaging the child in extended good byes.
bribing or guilting the child not to go with the other parent.